July Habit: Journaling and a June Habit Recap

+ Happy Summer! It’s the last post of the month which means a new monthly habit and a recap of last month’s. These monthly experiments help me build healthy habits, break unhealthy ones or just learn more about myself so I can figure out what’s really essential!

Recently, I had a conversation with a dear friend about how hard transformation can be. Being aware of all the things you want to change or feeling that a goal is out of reach is totally overwhelming. That’s one of the reasons I do these monthly experiments. It gives me the space to concentrate on one change I’d like to make at a time, and focus on taking small steps for only thirty days. I might not be able to do everything for thirty days but I can certainly try to do anything for thirty days. Plus, the habit of doing an experiment every month has made me more flexible and willing to just try something.

So, you don’t have to follow mine or experiment at all but if you have a lot of things you’d like to try to change, this is a really great method. Make a list of all of the things you’d like to grow, learn, change, give up, tackle and start to rank them. Figure out an achievable monthly goal for the top one and define the rules for a new habit to help you get there. Then try it for a month… it’s just an experiment! Even pure failure will teach you a lot.

Okay, onto Journaling July.

I lost my best friend a year and a half ago. It broke my heart and was a huge loss :(. Some of the advice I received soon after was that I should learn to be my own best friend. I've thought about it and worked on it and... decided I don't completely agree with it. (That thinking has helped me a little bit though.) One of the recommended ways to be your own best friend, or just friend for that matter, is to journal. We tend to be kinder to ourselves, get more meaning from our experiences and simply get crap off our minds. All of that sounds great.

So here are the parameters for Journaling July: (Greg’s joining!)
+ Spend a few minutes at the end of EVERY DAY brain dumping, even if just a few words.
+ Incorporate it into our evening routines before reading for the night. (My journaling is not the same as my morning gratitude practice, but it could be.)
+ Use it as a place to gather and organize all thoughts (ideas, experiences, emotions) and sometimes make sense of them.
+ Write on paper and by hand so thoughts can flow more freely with fewer distractions.
+ Keep a notebook nearby to collect anything throughout the day.

I’m hoping this practice will help us go to bed with clearer minds, be more in touch with our emotions, improve our writing skills, and maybe even recognize the progress we can make in a month! Willing to try it with us?

Reflections on my June Habit: Mindful Drinking:
Mindful Drinking June has been pretty cool! The goal was to drink more water and also to slow down and better enjoy non-water beverages. I consumed a ton more water this month and had an 83% success rate overall! I did feel like my baseline health was better with the increased hydration but strangely all of my head stuff flared up this month too. The pain and discomfort did make it really hard to slow down and be mindful when drinking a soother like caffeine. On the lower pain days, I consumed less soda and a lot less alcohol but also slower and with more joy.

To recap, the idea was to:
+ Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day: 2 before each meal and 2 mid-afternoon.
+ Use mealtime as a trigger and set an alarm on my phone for the 4pm break so I could remember to refill my bottle.
+ Keep an 8-cup pitcher of cool, sometimes flavored water in the fridge so I could track my consumption.
+ Follow the Mindful Eating rules for any non-water beverages: particularly to check in with my intentions, how desirous I was, and also to slow down and savor each sip.

Keeping a cool pitcher of water in the fridge was the key to my success and tracking my consumption. I also did really well on the days that I kept a water bottle with me during errands and workouts. Woot! Any Mindful Drinking buddies out there? Or any tips to help further increase water intake?

June Inspiration

+ A lot of what I do at home and for work is about contracting/simplifying/letting go. One of the reasons I do this is to create room for expansion/potential/inspiration. Here are some of the things that have inspired me, or at least made me smile, this month:

1. I enjoyed meeting Linda, owner of Yonder in Pacifica. We started chatting about creativity and martial arts, and 45 minutes later, I was finally browsing the goods. I picked up an awesome stone-like owl and really admired her beautiful, California-coast-inspired ceramics.

2. There are a few Essentialism gems in this article from entrepreneur.com, How Successful People Work Less and Get More Done. “Disconnecting is the most important weekend strategy on this list, because if you can’t find a way to remove yourself electronically from your work Friday evening through Monday morning, then you’ve never really left work.” Disconnecting and morning routines we’ve discussed but they also suggest weekly reflection and preparing for the upcoming week. More on those later. ;)

+ Also, this post on morning routines and creativity: “The problem is that our minds are their most delicate in the morning. Sleep during the night has cleared out any by-products of the day before, and the result is that we can think more clearly (and more creatively) if we only allow our morning mind to “sync” with everything our subconsciousness has sorted through during the night.“

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3. More shows! I had a fun week seeing Palma Violets at a small dive bar one night and then Sufjan Stevens at a grand theater the next. Both were inspiring but Sufjan killed it… there wasn’t a dry eye in the room.

4. Speaking of Sufjan, I’ve decided to share a Spotify playlist that I update monthly! I’m adding new songs from the month but also a few that have come up in talking to or thinking about friends. Let me know what you think. <3

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5. An experiment in extreme Essentialism in Joshua Tree! “The experience was truly unforgettable, and has made me an infinitely more discerning consumer of objects, space and time. While old habits die hard, my new-found awareness has allowed me to take a few steps back and consider whether or not my daily conventions are truly rational, or simply inherited.”

6. I once had a crazy desire to own a vacation cabin (in Tahoe, on the beach or in wine country) but the idea of the cost and maintenance didn't sit well with me. This was a prime motivation for embracing Essentialism... I decided that I wanted to make our primary home feel like a vacation home: less crap lying around, fewer distractions, more space. Colin Wright communicates this idea nicely. “Cabins are beautiful, but even more magnificent is a self-aware person who is able to imbue any space, or lifestyle, with that same intentionality and significance.“

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7. I'm noticing Serene Guest Bedrooms now that we’re renting ours on Airbnb! Plus new mattresses.

8. The latest phase of our home renovation finally wrapped up this month! The best part so far (other than #7) is our outdoor shower in the lightwell off our bedroom. I celebrated by showering out there multiple times this month, even in the rain. It’s amazing. More on naked leisure from A Cup of Jo.

9. This cute book offering simple ideas for living a healthier life: “IF YOU LEARN ONLY ONE YOGA POSE...”, “SIMPLE SECRETS FOR A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP” and “DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE FOR AT LEAST 10 MINUTES A DAY.”

10. Meditation is definitely an essential in my life... for mental health, physical health, productivity and clarity. I usually do a daily guided or unguided meditation and when it's available, I LOVE Oprah's guided meditations. Her next free 21-day Meditation Experience with Deepak begins on July 13th. I have the app on my phone and can do it anywhere. Register now!

Mine has been a solitary, healing, back-to-basics June. Yours?

+ Some of my favorite people are Geminis so happy birthday to all of you! xo